Abuse

Let me ask this question. Do women really know what the diference  between aggressive and abusive? AGGRESSIVE: BOLDLY ASSERTIVE; FORWARD  ABUSIVE: TREATING.BADLY OR INJURIOUSLY; MISTREATING, ESP. PHYSICALLY;  EXPRESSING OFFENSIVSE PHYSICAL, MENTAL, SEXUAL, OR VERBAL REPROACH.Now,  I'm all for aggresive women they make me... Well that's another blog  for another day. Aggression is a vibe you give off like a aura your  swagger, your style. Abuse is something that usually comes out later on  in a relationship when the victim (man or woman) has his/her guard down.  Most women that eye have encountered no matter what race or sexuality say  that they want an aggressive women or an aggressive man. But when that woman  or man turns into an abusive partner a lot of women still stay. Why is  that? Don't get me wrong eye love an aggressive woman but when she beats  on me physically, emotionally, and/or mentally it's time to go. Today my sorro called because her and her boyfriend had a  fight (she went to work before bruised up black eyes, busted swollen  lips etc. and she had been calling out frequently. eye said to  another soror"eye hope she's ok." She responded "my boyfriend beats on  me and eye  go to work, so  should she." She said "he grabs me and  shakes me when eye piss him off, but eye know when to shut up so he doesn't  raise his fist at me" eye just looked at the phone in amazement at how  nonchalant she was. eye've been there before, eye've  had a woman hit be but  she would tell me it was for old and new encase eye did something eye mean  WTF and you know what my so called "friends" told me "N" just do what  she says and anything you think she may want you to do before she asks  you to do it you now, to keep her of ya ass so much" she has  hit me and  she tore me down mentally and eye'm still recovering. When eye was younger eye  went through it with a bully (ex number 2) who did all types of shyt to  me that had me throwing up blood and some more shyt. eye won't go through  it again. That's my word. To my women or men that maybe going through  this if your partner is going to change it WON'T BE BECAUSE YOU STAYED!Staying will only get you hurt or even killed. eye  know it's hard and you  want to be the rock that your partner needs to change and become a  better person but you are only allowing yourself to be a enabler, a  punching bag. Get out for yourself and for the people who love you. And  remember Abuse never equals EYE Love You. While we are on the topic of  abuse and aggression let me ask another question why is it that NOT ALL  BUT SOME studs/Doms feel that the only way the prove that they are the  more dominant person in the relationship. WE KNOW THAT, THAT'S WHY WE  ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU DUMB ASS!! Abuse is not a turn-on nor does it make you more  of a stud/Dom Yeah that's not a good look. To all my Doms/studs that are  doing love that right way eye got nothing but love and respect for you.

For my sisters

As eye ponder on thoughts of want, eye review over and over again that which has defined me, Love is a gift given freely, never restrained, unconditional, sometimes unrequited but never absent. This journey that is my life which is now complete, has lead me to a few realism. Questions that need to be answered. This being said. eye feel the need to share them with my sisters, be you young, middle aged, or adorably regal in maturity.

As women, each of us want to belong to someone, yet in that search for belonging do we somehow lose sense of self? eye have struggled with this conundrum for many years. Do we create from fantasy our ideal counterpart from nothing? Make Mrs. Wrong, Mrs. Right! Deferring all of her shortcomings to "Oh she'll get better with time" knowing deep within the recesses of our heart this will never happen.

Have we forgotten that the Creator has given us free will in all things, including our search for that if not be it perfect mate? Have we forgotten that the Creator loved us first, and in doing so he truly freed us from the occasional need for the more physical presence in our lives? In truth my sisters, do we compromise or lower our standards which were originally initiated by the Creator to protect us, and keep us safe? Do we suffer periods of disrespect, verbal, physical and mental abuse just to say we have a woman? Are we not worth more? Do we not deserve more? Especially when we know that we are all queens, no matter what shade, culture, religious background or economic status. Do we not deserve this kind of love?The Creator says we are worthy, shouldn't we believe that we are? No one person can complete us, this has been done sucessfully by Divine. Who can match it? What mortal man can challenge him?

So to my sisters, take these thoughts to heart; Love The Creator first, Love self than when the season is right for it Love the one who up builds, supports you spiritually, and humbles herself before you.
simply from the mind of a fym